September 14, 2011

settling down

way back college days. i always make it appoint to open my Friendster account. Facebook was not a pandemonium at that time. although i have an FB account, i rarely visit it even up to now that friendster was gone.
i don’t now. siguro nagsawa lang ako. kung tutuusin kase para sakin pare-pareho lang naman ang mga social sites. nagkaiba lang sa mga features, how it was formatted at syempre depende kung anu ba purpose nung site. basta nagkakapareho lang naman yan sa iisang bagay, CONNECTION / COMMUNICATION.
anyhoos, walang kinalaman yan sa topic ko ngayon. lol

nakita ko kase one time when i opened my fb, karamihan sa mga classmates at batchmates ko may mga asawa na. well, a few had their ways toward career-oriented life. may mga nagtratrabaho na sa ibang bansa, may ilan din naman na nagbabaksyon lang. sosyal. hehehe
minsan nga nahihiya ko mag comment sa mga pictures baka kase masabihan lang ako ng ”who are you?” o kaya ”do i know you” hahaha

anyway, let’s go back to settling down i was mentioning a while. am actually happy for them. they seem ok and contented raising their own family. i don’t know but i have this feeling of envy. hahaha
no kidding. mas naiinggit pa ko sa kanila minsan kesa duon sa mga successful career-oriented na mga kaibigan ko. so i asked myself, ”ako kaya? kelan kaya ko mag-aasawa?” or “may plano nga ba ko mag-asawa?”

one time i received a text message fom one of my closest friends in college. we actually eyeing up to now. i know she had her boyfriend for quite a few years now. to my surprise (should i be?), she was already 6 months preggy.
na’pressure tuloy ako. hahaha
feeling ko tumatanda na ko. i even told myself that i should settle down 3 years from now. you wouldn’t believe me. it became my dilemma for a few weeks. hahaha
i even asked thoughts from other peers. ok aman at nakakuha ko ng matinong sagot that pacified my mind. a friend told me that he had experienced the same thing too since she is already in early 30’s but still single. she told me that we’re not getting any younger.

and i further quote:
sigurado kana ba? handa ka ba emotionally and financially wise? masasabi mu ba na yung mga obligasyon mu sa family mu eh half-done na? yung pagaasawa o pagbubuntis ba nila nasa plano talaga o baka naman biglaan?
to ponder on the latter question, she has a point there. nasa plano nga kaya nila na magkapamilya na? circumstances like unplanned pregnancy might have forced them to enter family hood, i told myself. pero parang may mali o may kulang yata sa mga sinabi ng friend ko na un? hindi ba dapat supposedly tinanung nya muna ko kung kanino mag se’settle down? kung sa lalaki ba o sa babae? hahahaha

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kung tutuusin, there are lot of things to consider when it comes to settling down especially sa PLU communities. expectations from our families, peer pressures, unexpected or unplanned situations and of course, our own choices we have to make.

perhaps some of us probably thinking of being with opposite sex someday, while to those who really can’t, probably thinking of just adopting a child or hiring a baby carrier. well, to where life will lead us, hopefully we all gone through the right planning and correct thinking that lead us to the right decision. afterall, our happiness isa what rally matters at the end of the day.


[christiansantamaria]


September 4, 2011, residence 

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